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 What Are You Afraid Of?

It seems that we are all afraid of something. I will share some of my fears and I would like you, as you read this, to contemplate yours. Fears take on different aspects, they could be inward or outward, but this is not about the fears themselves, but what we do with them.

I’ll start with one of the fears I have identified in myself. That is, fear of success. By that I mean, some of the opportunities I have been faced with over my life, may have produced good results, however, I got in my head and declined to proceed or went a little way and then gave up. One way these fears have manifested is my confidence in writing. Although I have had a blog for twenty years now, and have even self-published a children’s book, “The Gospel Parade,” I have failed to put 100% into the process, some because of limited funds, but also because I have a habit of saying to myself, “Who would read this? Would ‘they’ be interested? Who really cares what I have to say?”

I am currently working on a book, “Why Do You Want to Go to Hell?” and have gone through most of the negative head-speak through the process. Except for prayer and patience through writer’s block, I would have given up on this, now, yearlong project. But in an effort to press on, I am still working on it and should have it ready by years end.

As an aside, my 92 year old mom decided to read all of my blog posts (professionalmom.com) as a pastime the other day and when I asked her what she thought, she said, “You should be a writer, I didn’t know you could write!” “You should write a book.” It reminded me of the time I sang a song in a Junior Miss pageant and when it was over, she said, “I didn’t know you could sing!” It’s funny to me, and kind of a “left-handed” compliment, but it made me feel so encouraged and special, even though I have been a “writer” for many years and have published a book. Thanks, Mom!

But I digress. Fear of success. This is my most relevant fear. Recently, I was stuck in a rut with weight loss. Although I have never, until recently, had a major spike in my weight, it seems that I could not lose, no matter how hard I tried. I had spent more than I will say on tricks and pills, so needless to say, I was done. This is what God did for me. He sent me a weigh loss, health program that actually works and I am now enjoying the success of this new adventure.

Years ago, I launched a modeling career. It was quite bold for a mom of six and it was very local, however, I would not work certain hours and besides being a petite model before it’s popularity, my family came first and my “career” was short lived. Fear of success, maybe.

I’ve taken piano lessons, can’t play, tennis lessons, no team. What in the world am I afraid of?

Do you have something that you have been putting off with non-productive “self-talk?” I encourage you to take it to the Lord in prayer and if there is a positive “go-ahead,” from above, just do it! Fear of success has a stronger hold than fear of failure, in my opinion. I have seen people hold back from many ventures and adventures because of it. What are you afraid of?

My theme of “Fears” has taken a track pertaining to what we do. But there are other fears just as relevant. I don’t mean like fear of spiders, snakes, or rats, although these are at the top of my fear list. I am thinking of fear of sickness or fear of death. Or fear of these things for loved ones. We have all crossed this path at some time in our life, if we are old enough.

My greatest comfort in all of life’s fears is knowing Jesus as my Savior. He tells us in His Word, to “fear not.” Not just once but many times. Whether it’s fear of failure, fear of success or fears such as sickness or death, our only hope is Jesus Christ and praying for His will to be lived out in our lives. It doesn’t hurt to jump into an adventure with the hope of blessing, and it doesn’t hurt to go down a path that is uncertain, with Godly direction. It does hurt when our fears keep us from living a life that is “the best” and just settling, or worse, living a defeated life.

Let’s strive to do whatever it is God has for you, the best, the most abundant life possible. Use your gifts, not just for gain, but to bless others. And finally, “Fear Not!”

John 14:27 – Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

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The Conundrum of WHY

By Patti McDonald, Professional Mom

We are human, that’s a fact. We ask WHY. Another fact. Have you ever wondered why something happened, or why it happened in the way it did? I have.

For example, why did the log pop out of the ocean, just as the little boy was walking on the beach. And kill him! Why did the car swerve just in time to miss the oncoming traffic? Why did it hit?

Some of the WHY questions for all of us are: Why am I sick? Why did my husband die? Why did I miscarry? Why did my child die? Why did I wreck my car? Why did my house burn down? Why did the flood come here? There are as many WHYs as there are people. Why did my wife get cancer? Why did the tornado hit my house and not my neighbor’s? Or vice versa.

These and many, many more WHY questions are sent to a Holy, loving God every single second. So, how does he answer our WHY?

Sometimes the WHY is far off. Sometimes it is immediate. There is only one answer. The answer is to trust God. We don’t see with “God eyes.” His power and omnipotence are not in our realm, these qualities are higher and more intense than human hearts can understand. In our weakest moments, He is strong.

Still, there is sadness, mourning, anger, and grief in our suffering, whatever the reason. I have gone through seasons of WHY. If yours includes the finality of death, to me, it is much harder to understand the WHY and for some and some situations, we will not understand fully until we see Jesus, however, there is a glimmer of understanding in God’s Word.

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Sarah Laughed; a post by Patti McDonald, Professional Mom

Genesis 18:12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, after I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?

So, what shall we take from this “physiologically incomprehensible” forecast from the angel visitors? Abraham had been promised to be the Father of Many Nations by God. Here we have the inside view of Sarah as she overheard the conversation of her husband and his heavenly messengers, one of which, I believe was Jesus, but that’s for another day. She laughed within herself, scripture says. As a woman, I can see where she was coming from. Her husband was 99 years old and she was not too far behind, probably 90 or 91, according to historic accounts. The problem here is Sarah’s unwillingness to believe God, hence, the laugh.

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BUSY BUSY BUSY

Life gets busy y’all. I’m not kidding. I blinked my eyes and I am in my 60’s. How did that happen? I am grateful for my life, don’t get me wrong. God has blessed me with countless blessings. Unfortunately, one of those blessings was to eat anything I wanted, any time I wanted. Now, this was great during my years when I had hormones and metabolism, now, not so much.

Since my late 30’s, when I absolutely discovered the scale for the first time in my life, other than doctor visits when having the 6 children I already had at that time, it became my constant companion. And for many years, decades really, I have weighed myself consistently, as if as a daily devotional task.

Up and down, up and down, never really down as far as I wished, and many dollars and hours of wasted effort later, I kind of gave up. I say kind of, in that, I vowed (a teeny tiny vow that was to nobody in particular) to never spend another dollar on weight-loss products.  The piece de resistance of my plight was the word OBESE on my doctor well visit reports that I kept getting for the last few years. Just knock me down why don’t ya?

When you talk about emotional rollercoasters, you need only look at me. Although my highs were higher than my lows were low, I still bought a Spanks something every time I shopped. I had up and down confidence issues about my weight both in my job and at home. I had read years ago that when you look good to you, that doesn’t mean you look the same to others. This caused me to second guess every outfit. My closet looked like a war zone and I ended up wearing the same thing for every occasion. Black was my favorite color. My prayer became, “Lord, I’ve tried everything, now it’s up to you…”

My final health journey which I plan to be on forever until I die and which I am smack in the middle of right now, started this past February 1, 2020. I went to Hawaii to visit a close friend over New Years, she has always been thin in my remembrance and is in her 80’s now, spry as a 16-year-old. Good metabolism, I presumed. Anyway, I was at my all-time highest weight and as we walked her dog together, I even had trouble getting out of her car, clasping my shoes, etc., we discussed different remedies to my dilemma. My weight kept going up, not down, no matter what I did.

I traveled home, loving my friend and my trip, but still disappointed about my weight. A final (I’ll explain) OBESE check up was rendered when I got home.

I had been seeing some posts on Facebook and Instagram of before and after pictures of people who had lost significant amounts of weight. We, as consumers are bombarded with these pictures everyday from some company or another. But this was different. A person I had graduated with in Little Rock in 1970 had become my friend on FB and was now a “healthcoach” for a company that I had to search her profile to find. This was different, no mention of the company, no selling, curious…

I looked up Optavia and it was a food thing. But I was still interested in finding out how these people had gotten such amazing results. And it was not packaged as a lose weight fast program, which I knew I could work with. It (the weight) hadn’t gotten on fast, I knew it would take some time.

I called Gail, who had moved about an hour away from me, and asked to meet her for lunch to “talk about” this program she was offering. We had lunch and she explained the program, 5 “fuelings” a day and 1 big meal you make yourself with good food choices, called “Lean and Green.” I asked about supplements, “no supplements,” she said. I said, “Sign me up!”

That was January 2020, now June 2020 and 22 pounds lighter (still going) I feel better than I did in my 40s. The science and ideology behind this program, which by the way, has been around for over 30 years, is pretty awesome. It puts you in a slow fat burn which, for me, works great. A lot of people, mostly younger and with tons more weight to lose, lose more quickly and greater amounts, but I am happy with my “slowness.” I just remember, each month when I order my fuelings, why I’m doing this and that I can’t wait to see my doctor in July!

I’ll post an update when I reach my goal weight loss of 30 pounds, in the meantime, if you are interested in learning more about this phenomenal company and health program, let me know, as now, I have become a health coach for Optavia! #professionalmomhealthcoach #optaviacoach

I wish you the best healthy day!

Patti