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Overwhelmed Mommy

Periodically most mommies get overwhelmed. I say most because you may be one of those special people who are so organized, have perfect children, have a nannie, or just don’t let things bother you. But if you do get overwhelmed from time to time, you are not alone.

I have a bit of experience in the area. I have 6 children. They are all in the 40’s now so I can positively say that we survived, however, there were a few times in their upbringing that I lost it. These days with the added elements of electronics and now with the current pandemic, to be a mom you really have to put your armor on every single day.

When I say put your armor on, I mean to be able to take the slings and arrows that hit moms every day. But, even with said armor, you can still get overwhelmed.

So, lets define overwhelmed. This state may be different for different moms and situations. After, of course, the normal stresses of having twins, my first children, it didn’t take long for my house to get into a yearlong mess. I am not naturally a meticulous housekeeper and have even tagged myself as lazy, however, with the care and feeding of these two very demanding children, I admit that I got overwhelmed on several occasions. Overwhelmed for me at that time was the anxiety of a messy house.

My friends and family helped some and when the “second,” actually third child came along 16 months later several church friends came by to help with both the children for a day and to do some straightening. This was so welcomed and as they put me into my room with the new baby, they took care of the twins and cleaned up. They asked about the clutter on the counter, I said, “If you throw it away, just don’t let me see it!” I know my issues and it took all the will power I could muster to keep from opening a box of my clutter on the street! This was me, overwhelmed. They certainly were the best helpers ever. Even if just for a day! Don’t be afraid to help a young mom. You may just bring a meal or babysit for a few hours, but this is a real stress reliever. I know I will forever be grateful for any help I received from my husband, friends, and family. One time my sweet sister just happened by with a gallon of milk. We need to all be ready to help, even in a small way, our overwhelmed moms.

Housework is not the only stress for moms, but for me, it was a real issue. Later, when I had my 6th baby in 6 years, a friend saw my housecleaning dilemma and recommended a household helper that would clean for a few hours a week and help. I had her come many times for several years and she became a good friend, she even babysat!

Fast forward to schoolwork. This can be a stressor. If I could go back in time, I would have been more attentive to my kid’s schoolwork, unfortunately, I was more into their basic needs, food, and transportation. That said, they all graduated high school, and some college, so we are good. Except for typing 6 science projects, schoolwork was not one of my daily anxieties.  I know that especially right now, if you are doing schoolwork at home, keeping up with assignments, etc., can overwhelm. So, what do we do? My recommendation is to monitor but let your child, if old enough, take charge. Just like cleaning their room, it takes time and help for them to “get it” but ultimately, they must take some responsibility. I think it’s even overwhelming for you and your child for you to think you can do all their work for them. That eventually catches up with them.

Off track from the overwhelmed theme, I think children today are missing “consequences.” Which means, if they don’t do the work, they don’t make the grade. When we as parents allow them to experience (after, of course, making sure they know the instructions) the spoils of their work, this is a life lesson that moves them into a positive future. Diligent monitoring and checking are hard work but pays off for both of you. You are not their partner, you’re their boss.Continue reading

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 What Are You Afraid Of?

It seems that we are all afraid of something. I will share some of my fears and I would like you, as you read this, to contemplate yours. Fears take on different aspects, they could be inward or outward, but this is not about the fears themselves, but what we do with them.

I’ll start with one of the fears I have identified in myself. That is, fear of success. By that I mean, some of the opportunities I have been faced with over my life, may have produced good results, however, I got in my head and declined to proceed or went a little way and then gave up. One way these fears have manifested is my confidence in writing. Although I have had a blog for twenty years now, and have even self-published a children’s book, “The Gospel Parade,” I have failed to put 100% into the process, some because of limited funds, but also because I have a habit of saying to myself, “Who would read this? Would ‘they’ be interested? Who really cares what I have to say?”

I am currently working on a book, “Why Do You Want to Go to Hell?” and have gone through most of the negative head-speak through the process. Except for prayer and patience through writer’s block, I would have given up on this, now, yearlong project. But in an effort to press on, I am still working on it and should have it ready by years end.

As an aside, my 92 year old mom decided to read all of my blog posts (professionalmom.com) as a pastime the other day and when I asked her what she thought, she said, “You should be a writer, I didn’t know you could write!” “You should write a book.” It reminded me of the time I sang a song in a Junior Miss pageant and when it was over, she said, “I didn’t know you could sing!” It’s funny to me, and kind of a “left-handed” compliment, but it made me feel so encouraged and special, even though I have been a “writer” for many years and have published a book. Thanks, Mom!

But I digress. Fear of success. This is my most relevant fear. Recently, I was stuck in a rut with weight loss. Although I have never, until recently, had a major spike in my weight, it seems that I could not lose, no matter how hard I tried. I had spent more than I will say on tricks and pills, so needless to say, I was done. This is what God did for me. He sent me a weigh loss, health program that actually works and I am now enjoying the success of this new adventure.

Years ago, I launched a modeling career. It was quite bold for a mom of six and it was very local, however, I would not work certain hours and besides being a petite model before it’s popularity, my family came first and my “career” was short lived. Fear of success, maybe.

I’ve taken piano lessons, can’t play, tennis lessons, no team. What in the world am I afraid of?

Do you have something that you have been putting off with non-productive “self-talk?” I encourage you to take it to the Lord in prayer and if there is a positive “go-ahead,” from above, just do it! Fear of success has a stronger hold than fear of failure, in my opinion. I have seen people hold back from many ventures and adventures because of it. What are you afraid of?

My theme of “Fears” has taken a track pertaining to what we do. But there are other fears just as relevant. I don’t mean like fear of spiders, snakes, or rats, although these are at the top of my fear list. I am thinking of fear of sickness or fear of death. Or fear of these things for loved ones. We have all crossed this path at some time in our life, if we are old enough.

My greatest comfort in all of life’s fears is knowing Jesus as my Savior. He tells us in His Word, to “fear not.” Not just once but many times. Whether it’s fear of failure, fear of success or fears such as sickness or death, our only hope is Jesus Christ and praying for His will to be lived out in our lives. It doesn’t hurt to jump into an adventure with the hope of blessing, and it doesn’t hurt to go down a path that is uncertain, with Godly direction. It does hurt when our fears keep us from living a life that is “the best” and just settling, or worse, living a defeated life.

Let’s strive to do whatever it is God has for you, the best, the most abundant life possible. Use your gifts, not just for gain, but to bless others. And finally, “Fear Not!”

John 14:27 – Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

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The Conundrum of WHY

By Patti McDonald, Professional Mom

We are human, that’s a fact. We ask WHY. Another fact. Have you ever wondered why something happened, or why it happened in the way it did? I have.

For example, why did the log pop out of the ocean, just as the little boy was walking on the beach. And kill him! Why did the car swerve just in time to miss the oncoming traffic? Why did it hit?

Some of the WHY questions for all of us are: Why am I sick? Why did my husband die? Why did I miscarry? Why did my child die? Why did I wreck my car? Why did my house burn down? Why did the flood come here? There are as many WHYs as there are people. Why did my wife get cancer? Why did the tornado hit my house and not my neighbor’s? Or vice versa.

These and many, many more WHY questions are sent to a Holy, loving God every single second. So, how does he answer our WHY?

Sometimes the WHY is far off. Sometimes it is immediate. There is only one answer. The answer is to trust God. We don’t see with “God eyes.” His power and omnipotence are not in our realm, these qualities are higher and more intense than human hearts can understand. In our weakest moments, He is strong.

Still, there is sadness, mourning, anger, and grief in our suffering, whatever the reason. I have gone through seasons of WHY. If yours includes the finality of death, to me, it is much harder to understand the WHY and for some and some situations, we will not understand fully until we see Jesus, however, there is a glimmer of understanding in God’s Word.

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Sarah Laughed; a post by Patti McDonald, Professional Mom

Genesis 18:12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, after I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?

So, what shall we take from this “physiologically incomprehensible” forecast from the angel visitors? Abraham had been promised to be the Father of Many Nations by God. Here we have the inside view of Sarah as she overheard the conversation of her husband and his heavenly messengers, one of which, I believe was Jesus, but that’s for another day. She laughed within herself, scripture says. As a woman, I can see where she was coming from. Her husband was 99 years old and she was not too far behind, probably 90 or 91, according to historic accounts. The problem here is Sarah’s unwillingness to believe God, hence, the laugh.

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